Cheating on your partner can be very bad for any relationship. Some people may cheat in very clear ways, while others may be more sneaky about it. A expert psychologist named Elena Touroni says there are a few main signs that could mean your partner is cheating on you.
A past of cheating is one of the most important signs. Touroni says, “Generally, if a person has cheated once, there’s a psychological reason behind it, meaning they will tend to do it again.” People often act this way because they are anxious and afraid of making a promise.
Another red flag is not being committed. If your partner doesn’t want to commit to the relationship, it could mean that they care about someone else personally. Touroni says “if the one party to the relationship is still very invested and committed to it continuing, but you see the other party acting in a way that doesn’t reflect that commitment, then there is something missing.”
Traumatic events in childhood can also play a big role in cheating. People who were neglected or abandoned as kids may be more likely to cheat on their partners as adults. “Sometimes one person in the couple hasn’t made a very good choice to begin with,” says Touroni. There are types of people who are very interested in partners who aren’t accessible.
People who cheat on their partners often also have narcissistic tendencies. Touroni says, “They might be more impulsive, prioritizing pleasure and having fun as opposed to being a committed partner.”
It can be painful to find out that your partner has been cheating on you, but it is possible for your relationship to survive and even grow after an affair. Touroni says, “Discovering that a partner has had an affair is a hugely painful thing for someone to go through, but at the same time, I do genuinely feel that if something is understood and worked through properly, and both people are willing, it can also be a completely new beginning.”
