It’s October, but because global warming gifted New Yorkers with a never-ending summer this year, I refuse to believe that winter is coming. Tell me again, Jon Snow, because I’m in denial. (I was wearing sandals, like, yesterday.) Yes, I logically understand that it will snow. There have been signs — a chilly day here or there — that I’ve ignored. If I’m this ignorant about a guaranteed season change, you might miss signs your relationship is over, and that’s totes normal. The stakes are much higher when it comes to your heart.
Like kissing summer goodbye, kissing a long-time partner goodbye can be difficult. Scratch that; it can be devastating. It can mean lying in bed for three days sans shower, sobbing so hard you almost puke, and feeling like the world is over. Dramatic, I know. But haven’t we all been there? Of course we’re looking to avoid the signs that our relationship is over. Endings f*cking suck.
On the other hand, staying in a relationship that is no longer bringing you life is unhealthy as well. True, you may not have to suffer an explosion of feelings in bed with Oreos and wine — palates don’t exist when you’re heartbroken — but you’ll suffer in smaller ways day to day if you stay in a relationship that isn’t working for you. You know those grumpy, older married couples you meet who seem to hate each other? Yeah, that’s probably not #goals.
Here are four signs that your relationship is over that you may be missing:
